How can one evaluate if they are engaging in blame?

The correct answer involves assessing whether feelings of frustration or anger would persist if there were no external parties to blame. This method encourages a deep self-reflection on the underlying emotions and motivations behind one's reactions. It shifts the focus from assigning fault to understanding the root causes of one's emotional responses.

This approach allows for personal accountability, enabling individuals to recognize how much of their distress is tied to blaming others versus their own internal feelings. If the emotional response continues even in the absence of someone to blame, it indicates that the issue may be more about personal reactions and less about the actions of others.

While reflecting on past behavior can provide insights into patterns of blame, it doesn't directly assess the current emotional state and the role of blame in it. Discussing with friends might lead to different perspectives, but it can also risk reinforcing blame rather than examining its impact on personal feelings. Similarly, examining written records could help identify instances of blame but wouldn’t facilitate the emotional evaluation needed to understand the implications of blame on an individual's well-being.